January 30, 2012
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Fragile
Adam and I were laying in bed last night, face to face. The only break in the darkness was a streetlamp shining through cracks in the blinds. I could make out the rough outline of his body, and the muted light reflected off his hair. He was stroking my side, his fingers running along each rib to my spine.
“You feel so fragile, May.”
“I’ve always been smaller than you.”
“But I can make out each of your ribs…”
“You always could.”
“Not like this.”
“I’ve only dropped 10 pounds. I could lose another 20 and still be in the healthy weight category-”
“I don’t care about that! Don’t lose any more weight…please, May.”
“124 at 5’2″ is not underweight, I’m fine.”
“What you weight doesn’t matter! I want you to be healthy. Please, you feel so fragile, May…”
M
Comments (21)
Sounds like he really loves you.
that’s sweet of him to care.
but i too am near your height 5ft1 and half, and aiming to be 97lbs ha. and my bmi would still be healthy when i reach that.
xo
*sigh
weights and stuff are a personal thing. what ever makes you happy i guess?
take care
Fear of change he will like it if you lose a bit more. But right of him to tell you you do not need to and ot to over do it
It really depends on body type. My friend is 5’2″ and around 109 pounds and she’s pretty chunky. I have another friend around the same height who’s 120 and she’s thin as a rail.
@AgainstTheWind1 - I know
. I just want to make him proud of me.
@lumayaaa - I’m large-chested and have large hips (bone wise), so I think I should stay in the 3 digits. But I’m sitting right in my BMI healthy range, and I think 115 would look good on me
It is personal prefrence, and also how active you are. I dance 3 hours every night, I can’t starve my body and still perform.
@trunthepaige - He’s been wonderfuly supportive of keeping it “healthy”. He is the first one to jump my case if I’m doing obsessive cardio or not eating breakfast. I think the reason he is so sensitive about it is because his mother and sister are definitely underweight :-/
@ToMarilyn - I totally agree. I even think ethnicity can play a role. And toning. One girl on my dance team is my high but barely 95 lbs – and she doesn’t look underweight at all. I have a long torso and wide hips, so I think it’s easier to notice a weight change on me, both up and down.
Dear, he IS proud of you. That’s not at risk here. He wants you to be healthy because he cares about you so deeply.
lol because he can feel your ribs. but it is important to not starve
uh, I don’t see you as fragile though, at all
It’s sweet of him to care
I hope everything’s going okay! <3
Sounds like you have someone who really cares about you, and that’s a good thing.
He’s probably more worried about your mindset than anything, because you ARE at a healthy weight.
Hope everything goes okay for you today. Glad you have someone who cares.
you can see ribs at 124? I’m 5’8, 122 and they just won’t show up. So jealous of your body type!
awwww ^_^
@phantomFive - I don’t either. I’m just working out 3+ hours a day with dance team and strength training, so obviously I’m losing some weight. I think as long as I’m healthy, I’m strong, not fragile.
@thinwish217 - It’s weird, but my chest area is losing the most body fat (compared to my legs and hips). I also think the shorter you are, the more noticable a 10-lb weight loss is.
@hellstesterne - I think you’re right. His mom and sister are definitely underweight, I think he’s scared I’d end up going too far.
@soverystrong - Thank you, everything is going well
@AgainstTheWind1 - The only reason I’m losing so much is that I’m doing dance and strength training 3+ hours a day…which is required for the team. I’m also watching what I’m eating, but I feel like it’s a healthy approach. I think he’s just afraid I’ll get unhealthy over time…which is, like you said, because he cares.
@zubes5806 - Thanks
May
He sounds like he really cares
I’m sure if you keep dropping he’ll realise you’re still you.
Yeah, just if you find you have low energy, eat more. It may sound obvious, but some people have trouble with it
@SheDoesntEat - Thank you, I couldn’t agree more
May
Your self-concept is very important, and the decision on losing/gaining is totally yours. Still, his love is a beautiful thing, in and of itself.
@RighteousBruin - His mother and sister are both dangerously underweight, so I think his worries stem from that. I know he loves me, and thank you
May
Are you honestly comfortable with the weightloss and digging in the food how you should be? Honestly you are a dancer and as long as you are eating right and healthy the low number doesn’t mean a thing just like a higher one doesn’t… Most small framed women even if they have muscle and are very strong, bones show through…
I’m 5’2 3/4in (every unit counts for shorties like us!!) When I was in boxing and on the dance team I was 115 and ate like a beast! I mean I could max out without gaining a lb. I was so thin but very strong and my skin was great!
When I was in Gymnastics I was 108 and my waist was even smaller but my legs and bottom got bigger and toner as well as my arms. I looked like I could be broken in half but my core was like a freakin’ rock… (I still looked soft like a lady though. lol)
My point is size doesn’t matter as long as you know you feel healthy. He may just like the meat on your bones but it’s honestly up to you! I know my husband like’s me softer and thicker but really I feel more tired and less energized like this… I’m a size 10 right now (had my 2nd baby 7months ago but at 3 months I tore my Achilles tendon so I couldn’t exercise.) I look more like a 7 and I’m 135lbs. I would love to get down to a 4 regardless what my husband likes… because that’s when I feel my best!
Just do what feel’s healthy for your body! Only you know what feel’s right, and be honest with your self. Don’t lose weight or gain weight because it “look’s good.”